The mother-daughter relationship is known to be characterized by love and sensitivity. During the teenage years, this relationship can witness challenging moments, and many ups and downs.
The teenage years are difficult for both the mother and her little daughter. Puberty, hormonal changes, and the need for independence are what describe this period. As a mother, you have to understand all these changes, love, and guide your daughter. These are the most formative years of their lives. It’s important to be there for them.
Fortunately, there are lots of strategies and tips that can be followed during this time to ensure a healthy and happy relationship. Some of which are the following:
Teenager daughters may feel sometimes overly criticized or not understood, which feels unjust for them. Similarly, mothers feel that their daughters don’t listen or take their advice seriously.
Before starting a conflict, try to be sympathetic. That is, show that you can deeply understand their feelings and do care about them. Be kind to them.
Communicate With Your Daughter
Stop nagging and criticizing your teenage daughters. Instead, try to approach them and communicate with them. This will build the bridge between you. Each mother has to bear in mind that their daughters are growing up. Therefore, it’s highly important to change their way of communication. If you want to be happy in your relationship with your daughter and be connected, then you have to be able to know the exact time to change your role from a controlling mother to a best friend. Once friends, they will come back to you whenever they face a problem.
Ask About Their Needs
To be an effective communicator, you have to, first, ask for the second part’s needs. For example, if your daughter comes to tell you about a problem when encountered at school, ask her whether she wants you just to sit there and listen, or give her solutions. By actively listening to your daughter, you bound your relationship and you show them that they are important.
As your daughter starts to grow from childhood to adolescence, trusting them is a must. When you begin to trust your daughter you encourage them not to fear and be open to talking to you about their problems comfortably. Moreover, when you trust your daughter, you teach them how to have positive relationships in adulthood. This helps you to build a deep relationship that goes beyond a parent-child relationship.
Spend Time Together
Show that you care is important as it makes your daughter believe that they have support in this life. Spending time with your daughter is the best way to tell her how you care for and love her. You can do many activities together such as eating outside, going to the gym, or simply sitting and talking together.
Tell Them How Much You Love Them
“Love, love changes everything; how you live and how you die”. It may appear to you just three simple words “ I love you”. However, they will have a deep impact on your daughter. By saying this, you will tell them that they are valuable. They provide them with courage, hope, and a warm shelter to protect them from any harm.
It’s not easy to be a mother of a teenage daughter. But is it worthy of trying? It’s essential that a mother can shift roles immediately when needed. Be a mother sometimes, and a friend other times.